Stop comparing yourself to others

2019-05-16 22:07 #0 by: Leia

We're all guilty of endless scrolling through socials to get the latest on our pals, but research has found this is putting a negative spin on our own achievements and as this week is mental awareness week BUPA has discovered some things.

In their study of 2266 UK adults, they worked out affects major life events. More than one in ten said they avoided posting pics online because it didn't look as good as their mates and 58% say celeb postings give an unrealistic look about how these moments should be like.

So how can you avoid feeling down or upset about these life moments? 'The Sun' spoke to BUPA's Dr Petra Simic, and here is what she advised:

1. Break it down and think about the bigger picture

Sometimes it can be hard to take a step back and realise what you have already achieved. So take a second to look at the things that you have done instead of being consumed over you "to do lists".

2. Think about whether goals work for you?

While setting goals can keep us focused it doesn't always work for everyone. Sometimes we can "emotionally attached to our goal" and are upset if we don't reach them. So set targets that are right for YOU.

3. Don't push yourself too far or set yourself impossible tasks

Always remember goals need to be achievable first, and sometimes they can be altered due to life events, and that's okay. 

4. Can a minute to be thankful for everything you do have. 

It can be easy to take things for granted to always take a bit of time to count your blessings and don't forget to reward yourself for all your achievements. 

5. Set a schedule for screen downtime.

This way you're less likely to check up on friends achievements and celebrity events, comparing them to your own. Also, tone down your notifications so you're not always updated and feeling like you have to keep up with appearances. 

6. Try not to post things just for your followers.

Make your social media is personal to you and the memories you want to document, not what you think your followers want to see.

7. The only person you need to impress is yourself.

Accepting that not everyone will be impressed is the first step. You then have to accept that it isn't possible to control other peoples opinions.

Source: The Sun

Photo by Kev Costello on Unsplash

All the best, Leia

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2019-06-07 17:22 #1 by: Evelina

Social media has such a big effect on our mental health! Thanks for posting 💕


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